After School Refusal: Why You Freeze and What Actually Helps
Emma Reed speaks to the moment so many mums dread: your child refuses, and you freeze.
In this episode, Emma explores why after-school can be such a flashpoint. Not because your child is being deliberately difficult, but because they have spent the day holding themselves together, and the release that comes when they're finally home can be bigger, and harder to be around, than you were expecting.
She talks about the freeze: that split second where every option seems to come with a cost, and the pressure to get it right only makes the thoughts go faster. And she shares an approach she calls Admit, Accept, Allow, a way of creating just enough internal space to find the next small move forward.
This episode is for any mum who has ever found herself holding her ground while her heart is hammering, trying to hold the relationship and tomorrow's responsibilities at the same time. Emma talks honestly about why that moment is genuinely hard, and why the mum who keeps showing up in it, even imperfectly, is doing something that takes real courage.
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About Emma
Emma Reed is a psychotherapeutic counsellor, parent coach, and mum, whose work is about naming the complicated feelings that often get in the way of your parenting, so you can more easily enjoy your children and become a more confident mum.
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