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Breaking the Shame Spiral — Why Repair Matters More Than Guilt

The Cost of Carrying It All
October 06, 2025•1 min read

Ever snapped at your child and then spent hours replaying it in your head? That’s the shame spiral — when guilt hardens into the story that you’re not capable, that you’re failing as a mum.

In this episode, therapist and parent coach Emma shares how to break the shame spiral by understanding the difference between guilt and shame, and why repair matters far more than getting everything right.

Through an everyday example from “Sam’s” life, you’ll discover:

  • The difference between guilt and shame.

  • Why shame makes you feel powerless and incapable.

  • The small act of repair that can change everything.

  • Why your child’s meltdowns are actually signs of trust.

💛 If you’re ready to step out of shame and into repair, download The Calm Mum Reset (£7). It’s a step-by-step guide to reconnect with your child after the hardest moments.

👉 go.dyfparents.com/the-calm-mum-reset


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Understanding people has always been a passion of mine, and becoming a parent made that understanding even more real. My counselling training helped me explore the emotional challenges of parenting — not perfectly, but with more presence, compassion, and clarity. Now I run a social enterprise supporting families through group work, counselling, and digital learning.

Emma Reed

Understanding people has always been a passion of mine, and becoming a parent made that understanding even more real. My counselling training helped me explore the emotional challenges of parenting — not perfectly, but with more presence, compassion, and clarity. Now I run a social enterprise supporting families through group work, counselling, and digital learning.

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