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Why It Feels Like You’re Always Failing — and How to Change That Story

The Cost of Carrying It All
September 29, 2025•1 min read

Why does motherhood so often feel like failure? In this episode, therapist and parent coach, Emma unpacks the invisible weight mums carry — the endless emotional and practical load that no one else sees. Through her own story of navigating her child’s food refusal, Emma shows how even in the hardest moments, it’s possible to reclaim small pieces of yourself.

This episode will help you:

  • Recognise why “failure” is really the weight of the impossible.

  • See how your child’s needs are real, but your limits are real too.

  • Begin to name the invisible load you carry every day.

It often feels like you’re failing. But actually, you’re carrying the impossible.

🎧 Listen now and take your first step toward changing the story.

✍️ Journal Prompt For You

What’s one thing I’m carrying that no one sees?

If this resonated, you can watch my latest YouTube video where I unpack this from a therapeutic perspective, and share some powerful insights about why the cycle happens in the first place.

🎥 Watch the YouTube video for more depth → The Overgiver Cycle — Why It Feels Like You’re Always Failing (and How to Change That Story)
💌 Get the Calm Mum Reset here → https://go.dyfparents.com/the-calm-mum-reset/


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Understanding people has always been a passion of mine, and becoming a parent made that understanding even more real. My counselling training helped me explore the emotional challenges of parenting — not perfectly, but with more presence, compassion, and clarity. Now I run a social enterprise supporting families through group work, counselling, and digital learning.

Emma Reed

Understanding people has always been a passion of mine, and becoming a parent made that understanding even more real. My counselling training helped me explore the emotional challenges of parenting — not perfectly, but with more presence, compassion, and clarity. Now I run a social enterprise supporting families through group work, counselling, and digital learning.

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